Day 10 – Couple time
Have you ever noticed how romantic movies end when the couple finally gets together and then the assumption is that their life carries on being perfect and they get along really well all the time. Well, unfortunately that only happens in the movies. In real life, even when a relationship starts off being perfect (is there even such a thing as a perfect relationship?) it tends to deteriorate over the years. When kids come into your life it becomes even more difficult. You are constantly dealing with the stress related to day to day life and don’t have time or energy to invest in your relationship.
Whereas your spouse was once your first priority in the family it changes once you have children to care for.
Try and take some time each week to spend together as a couple. Get a babysitter and go on a date. Just the two of you. Do something special for each other at least once a week. Find little things that make each other happy and do them. Once the kids are asleep find a few minutes every day to sit together over a cup of tea or coffee and talk.
Don’t have major arguments with your spouse in front of the children
All couples argue some times. You can never agree on everything. If your arguments tend to get out of control you should have them in private. Exposing your children to your arguments will cause unnecessary stress and may make them feel insecure.
On the other hand, sometimes there are minor issues that you don’t agree on that can actually help the children to be exposed to. If you listen to each other’s point of view, calmly each explain your own opinion and then reach an agreement it can actually show your kids how to deal with a disagreement and provide them with the tools they will need to cope with such conflicts in life.
Be a positive role model for conflict resolution. Show your kids that when people disagree they can solve the problem quietly and peacefully.